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A Friend’s Wedding

A couple weeks ago, I had the honor of being a groomsman in one of my best friend’s wedding. While it was a wonderful and joyful event that will never be forgotten, I had to really fight to get through this weekend in terms of my Crohn’s.

I knew I was staying at a hotel, so there was no problem there. I was more worried about finding a bathroom that was available for use during the wedding pictures, and reception. About a week ago, I went on a run to clear my mind, only to find myself having a small panic attack. I started to say to myself, “What happens if I have a bout during the service?” I can just imagine myself standing up under the Chuppah, then all of a sudden having to run off. Everybody would take their eyes off of the bride and groom, and immediately draw them on me! I was not ready for this wedding!

I had other things on my mind too! What happens if I have to go to the bathroom while we are taking wedding party pictures? I knew that the pictures were going to be taken at a local winery, and most of them would be taken outside. I figured the best way to calm my nerves was to go up to the venue during the week. If I give myself time to scope out where the bathrooms are in relation to where I would be throughout the day, I would feel much better.

On Thursday evening, I went up to the winery. Although it was closed, I was able to legally view the property from the outside. I had a chance to reach out to the groom and ask him the “bathroom situation.” He assured me that there was a private bathroom behind the kitchen (where the staff would be working). He already went ahead and notified the wedding planner about my situation. Wow, that was so nice of him!

Ok, so I had a piece of mind, now its time to go and have a good time! Let’s fast forward to the day of the wedding, Saturday. Boy it was a hot day! My stomach was doing ok, a bit nervous but I was hanging-in. As we started to take pictures outside, I realized that I was sweating way too much! I had to take into consideration that I could be getting dehydrated because of the excessive sweating and the 13-14 times already spend in the bathroom. It got so bad, that before the guests came, I had to dry my shirt under the hand dryer in the bathroom.

Once the dancing started, I started sweating a lot again! I realized that I needed to hydrate and stay away from the drinking. All of the other members of the wedding party were partaking in shots, and other celebratory drinks. I realized that on this night, it wasn’t about me. It was about the two people bringing together their love. I didn’t want to make a scene because I got sick at a wedding. I would never be able to be ok with myself. I was darn proud of myself this past weekend. I was proud that I planned ahead, so that my nerves were calmed. I am also proud that I made a wonderful decision not to have any alcoholic beverages during the wedding, and stuck to water! I had a wonderful time, and I felt great celebrating my best friend’s wedding!

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