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Eff Your Beauty Standards

Eff Your Beauty Standards is a movement created by Tess Holiday and it’s one I am extremely passionate about.

Media in all manners, including social media, all promote a certain standard of beauty. What it’s supposed to look and feel like, but it’s a lie.

Our reality is not what is portrayed on social media

We’re given a fairytale to believe in, but it’s not reality for a lot of people – a lot of people are out there suffering. We suffer internally and externally.

The media is constantly portraying ostomies as worst case scenarios and like they’re the worst thing that could ever happen to you. They do not show the life they give back to you. They have doctors on shows telling patients how devastatingly sorry they are that they will need a bag but they don’t say I am sorry that this is happening and you need this intensive surgery BUT….

There’s a standard out there that is unattainable unless you have a team of stylists, makeup artists, and a photoshop account. This is just the external beauty.

I’m here to tell you to EFF those beauty standards!

Embracing your body when it’s felt so against you is a difficult task to say the least, but with time and being kind to yourself, I believe that you will see the good.

For me it’s been a lot of time, a lot of self reflection and deep thoughts. I have slowly learnt that life just goes on with or without me. My body isn’t the same as it used to be, but it’s the new and improved version of me. I’ve found art and tattooed it over my scars to remind me of how far I’ve come.

It’s not an easy or quick journey and it’s a hard one to start, but start by looking deeply at yourself. Do you see the battle that you have won just by breathing and baring those scars?!

It’s little moments which become bigger moments.

It helps with a bit of counseling if you are struggling with strategies to move on from trauma, and realistically, life has been a bit traumatic!

I want you to see your beauty! I want you to reinvest and invent yourself! You can still wear what you want to wear. There may be some small adjustments but you can!

I’m not fat and I’m not skinny. I’m not beautiful, but I’m not ugly either. I am me. Theres no one like me. I can not be replaced or replicated. I define who I am, my style, my grace, and my life.

You define who you are. Who do you want to be?

I don’t want to be a victim. I want to define my beauty as my own.

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  • thedancingcrohnie moderator
    1 year ago

    Beautifully written.

    So true. There is such a stigma with ostomies but so many achieve freedom and pain-free lives with it. There is such beauty just in that alone.

    Always dancing,
    Elizabeth (team member)

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