Thank You for Loving Me, Crohn’s and All

Let’s be honest, dating someone with Crohn’s is a lot of work. I wouldn’t necessarily say it’s hard work, but there is an extra layer of work that goes into dating someone like us. Dating someone with Crohn’s is unpredictable. Some days we feel fine, almost back to our old selves, and the next we can hardly gather the strength to get out of bed. We live through unexpected flare-ups, constant pain, and miserable symptoms. It’s just our way of life. Because of the issues we face due to our illness, dating someone like us requires sacrifice, compassion, and patience. It takes a special person to love a Crohnie. When you do find the one who stands beside you and embraces your Crohn’s journey, hang on to them tight.

A special thanks

Now that I’ve finally found the one, I need to express how eternally thankful I am for the way he has embraced me and all of my issues, loved me unconditionally, and supported me through everything. I don’t say it nearly enough but, from the bottom of my heart, thank you. It means more to me than you will ever know that I have such a strong support system in you. To have someone who willingly takes on the responsibility of being an active part of my health care, coming to every doctor appointment, surgery, and infusion means the world to me. In you, I have someone to lean on, someone to help advocate for me and my health, and someone to build me up when I’m down. Having Crohn’s is scary, really scary, but having you by my side makes this path easier to walk.

I don’t say it enough

For all the times you’ve sat beside me, comforting me when I’m down, reassuring me when I’m scared, calming me down when I’m anxious, and soothing me when I’m in pain, thank you. I truly appreciate everything you do for me. It’s abundantly clear that you are genuinely concerned about my well-being and that you would do anything for me. You take care of me. I never feel pressured to do anything I’m not feeling up for. Instead, you encourage me to rest when I need to, to listen to my body, and to take care of myself above everything else. Your patience and compassion are unwavering. Even when you wake up at 2 am to change the sheets because my ostomy bag leaked all over, you never get upset or frustrated with me. Instead, when finding me crying in the shower, you quietly change the sheets, bring me a fresh change of pajamas, give me a kiss, and reassure me that everything is okay. Thank you.

Thank you for listening to me complain about Crohn’s again and again. Even though we’ve had the same conversation a million times before, you let me vent, realizing that I just need to talk about what I’ve been through and the pain I’ve endured. I know you’ve heard it all before, but sometimes it builds up in me and I have to let it out. Thank you for seeing me as more than just my disease and reminding me of my worth. You’ve taught me that my disease, although a part of me, does not define me. When I’m struggling, you remind me to have fun, enjoy life, and appreciate the little things, even though it can be extremely difficult at times. You help me smile, even on my bad days. I am so grateful that you remind me to look forward to the future, instead of dwelling on the past. Because of you, I am so much closer to accepting the things I cannot change about my disease. Because of you, life is easier. Thank you for loving me.

Let them know

If there is someone special in your life who makes an effort to understand your Crohn’s struggle and attempts to help in any way they can, take a minute and thank them. Let them know you are grateful for them and appreciate all they do for you. As much as we need support and encouragement, they also need to hear validation that their efforts are appreciated and do not go unnoticed. It’s so easy to get caught up in life, especially when each day brings a new challenge, and forget to express how thankful we are. But at the end of the day, the people who love us, Crohn’s and all, deserve a huge shout out for all they do for us. Have you told your significant other “thank you” lately?

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