"I Do"... Special Events With UC

"Time for grillin’ and chillin’!" That’s how the invitation read. Would I attend the "I Do BBQ" request?

Of course, I would attend! After all, this was my son and future daughter-in-law’s wedding shower. It was hosted by the bride’s family, and they planned to cook hamburgers and hot dogs for the special occasion. On this day, I couldn’t NOT attend my only child’s memorable gathering.

But what is one to do at special events when eating issues prevail?

How to navigate special events with UC or Crohn's

For those of us with an IBD, we can attend holiday gatherings and family events if we plan in advance. Although it can be a struggle for one with Crohn’s or ulcerative colitis, we shouldn’t have to sit out certain holidays or other family gatherings.

Here are my suggestions for people with dietary restrictions:

My tips for planning ahead for events

1. Ask about menu options in advance.

It’s important to research first before committing to social gatherings. Now, this research may not always garner the most specific information. For example, when I asked my son what food would be served at his wedding shower, I received a typical uninformed response, "Beyond hamburgers and hotdogs, Mom, I’m not sure. Text Alaina," (his soon-to-be wife).

After rolling my eyes, I thought, "No worries. I can handle this." Because I’ve suffered with UC for more than 30 years, I know to plan for my gut and not worry about the rest. This means that I bring snacks and drinks for myself no matter where I travel or the event I attend. Like a good scout, I’m always prepared.

Since I’m gluten-free and vegetarian, I attended the wedding shower packed with fruit and nut bars. I would eat no matter what was served.

2. Begin the day with water and a small breakfast

Every morning I wake up and drink two glasses of water. Not coffee. Not tea. Good ol’ water hydration. I know that after sleeping for 8 hours, my body demands to be replenished. After all, the majority of our body is made up of it. Besides that, my morning dry mouth craves hydration.

Also, I chose to eat before I began my 3-hour drive to the event. One banana and a little trail mix gave me a healthy start to the day. At least I didn’t arrive feeling hungry

3. Take snacks with you

Like I stated earlier, I packed fruit and nut bars into my purse. I knew I would eat right along with everyone else.

So, remember to take snacks or food items with you that can be easily transported. Cheese and crackers, peanut butter to-go cups, apples, bananas, and nuts don’t require refrigeration. Plus, they’re small enough to easily carry in a small bag or purse.

4. Eat slowly and know the location of restrooms

Finally, I’ve learned that my food digests better if I take my time eating. No matter what I eat, I try to relish every bite. Additionally, I ask upon arrival where the restrooms are located. I always strategize how to most quickly navigate there in case my body doesn’t react well to my food choices.

Saying "I do" to special events with IBD

In the end, I enjoyed the "I Do BBQ" in honor of my son and his fiancée. I politely said, "No, thank you" to the burgers and hotdogs and reached for the carrots and celery instead.

Because I had planned in advance, I didn’t have to worry about the food options. That’s key to enjoying and taking part in life’s holidays and special events. This way, you can always say "I do" to any family food gathering.