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The Stress of Events with IBD

I had my fair share of weddings this past Summer.  And I was in the weddings, as a groomsman. Of course I felt honored to be in my best friend’s wedding, but I was concerned.  I knew that I would have to take pictures with the rest of the wedding party at different historic and symbolic points in the city.  It was going to be a long afternoon on a limo bus.  I had to prepare myself for the worst as I always do.

This was happening this past September 10th.  It was considered the hottest day in Philadelphia for a late Summer day, and the Philadelphia School District had dismissed their schools at noon due to the heat.  My classroom upon departing the building that Friday was a balmy 102 degrees!  I had to make sure that I stayed hydrated!  That Saturday, I had to meet the rest of the wedding party at the hotel at 2:00.  We were to board the bus, and head to Rittenhouse Square to start taking pictures.  I was hoping that there was a bathroom on the bus, but there was no luck.  I had to just make sure to stay calm.  What happens if we are in the middle of pictures and I had to use the bathroom?  Where would I go?  Would they wait for me?

On the bus ride, which felt like an eternity, I had a thousand things going through my mind.  I didn’t want to show my stress level, because that would ruin the day for my best friend, and of course the bride.  I just had to go to my breathing routines and relax!

In my mind, I thought we would be traveling to many stops throughout the city, but I was way off!  We ONLY went to Rittenhouse Square, then to the venue.  We only did pictures for about forty minutes.  Again, I overthought the whole day!

Once we arrived at the venue I felt better and “safe.”  There were plenty of bathrooms around, and my stress decreased.  So why do I get worked up about not being around bathrooms?

I honestly don’t know.  I know that if I think about the bathroom, I most likely will have to use the bathroom.  I think it is just imbedded into my brain.  I know that I use the bathroom around twenty two times a day, so the odds are that every where I go, I have to use the bathroom.  So when I was on the limo bus, I only assumed that I had to use the bathroom.  I guess I have to not assume anymore!  I’ll admit that I am scared to be in a situation that I have no control over.  I would say that this is something I need to work on.  Was I excited about doing pictures out in the open in a new suit, knowing that I might have an accident? No!  Was I excited that I was healthy enough to attend my best friend’s wedding, and stand next to him as he married the love of his life? You better believe I was!

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  • thedancingcrohnie moderator
    1 year ago

    Don’t worry, you are definitely not alone in thinking this way. If you are using the bathroom that many times, it is absolutely normal to be anxious about an outing like that. I would have the same thoughts! But what a relief that it turned out to be just one location! Phew! And especially with that heat, it would have been awful to be going from place to place. SO glad it worked out!

    Always dancing,
    Elizabeth (team member)

  • gwinda18
    3 years ago

    For such a long time, I thought I was going crazy by always worrying about what if I can’t find a bathroom in time?? I have missed so many events over the years because I just didn’t know if I could handle not knowing where the bathrooms are located. The worst for me currently is…getting in the car with friends and someone else is driving. I am seeking council from the medical staff but things are not better for me…yet.

  • 3 years ago

    I have had Crohn’s for 40 years so I have experienced that very scenario multiple times. Finally, I received a permanent ileostomy in 2007 and while it has not been perfect ninety percent of those issues are gone. Also, if you are open to it Cannabis really helps with IBD symptoms IMO.

  • Amna Rizvi moderator
    3 years ago

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience and what has worked for you in managing your IBD symptoms. There are many in the community who have found medical marijuana to be helpful in dealing with symptoms, so I’m glad it’s worked for you as well! Thanks for being a part of the community!
    Hope you have a great day!

    Amna Team Member

  • Paul Richman author
    3 years ago

    Thank you for sharing this with me! Have a great day!

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