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Things We’d Like to Hear

So often, we see infographics and articles that tell loved ones of those with illness what NOT to say. I’ve got some of those, but today, I want to talk about the things we’d like to hear.

So let’s get this out of the way first.
Things you’d rather not hear from others about your IBD:

“But you’re not skinny

“But you look so good”

“Life must be treating you well. You look so good.”

“You looked awful the last time I saw you.”

“You look much better.”

“So you just poop a lot?”

“Your eyes look so tired.”

“I feel so bad for you.”

Yay, the good things now!
Things you should say:

“Can I help you bring in your groceries?”

“Would you want to go for a short walk around your block? A quick walk, but to get you out of the house.”

“Can I bring over a frozen meal for your spouse and kids? Or a treat when you feel to eating it?”

“How about I bring over some cleaning supplies and give you a hand?”

“How about I clean your house?”

“I’m dropping off something for you at the door. I won’t ring the doorbell in case you’re not feeling well and resting. Just letting you know it’s there!”

If you are at the store, call the person and ask if there is anything they need from the store & offer to swing the item(s) by.

All in all, it’s pretty simple.

What would you add to your “what I want to hear” list?

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  • Amanda Osowski moderator
    7 months ago

    Really appreciate this post, Kelly.
    Thanks for writing!

    Amanda (team member)

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