New to the forum, looking for advice

Hello all. I'm not normally one for forums, but I'm kind of desperate and feel alone in this struggle right now. Here's a bit of background:

In 2010, when I was 27 years old, I started to experience frequent and urgent toilet trips, loose bowels, and extreme stomach pains. It was a very stressful time in my life after losing someone close to me, and I put it down to stress. But as it continued, and my bowel habits changed from "normal" to "loose", they stuck me with an IBS diagnosis.

I pressed the GP to do more tests, after having anemia, because I was worried, but they kept saying it was just IBS. And then in around 2012, I experienced the first sight of blood. I went to the hospital, but got scared and had no further tests.

Finally, at the end of 2023, after seeing blood more frequently, I had the camera test, and they found "patching" on the intestinal walls. But I did not see a gastroenterologist until the beginning of 2025. He scratched his head and said, "It might be IBS, it might be UC, we will do all the tests again".

At the end of last year, I lost someone close to me and another relative has been diagnosed with a lifelong problem, who I now care for. And stress has once more found me, but I've had a flare-up that has now lasted for 7 months, and the GPs will not give me any kind of medication. I asked for some anti-inflammatory pills just so I could get a handle on this inflammation. I feel more ill by the day, my immune system is rubbish and I catch everything going around. Strangely, I haven't loss much weight.

I'm kind of at a loss for what to do, and beginning to worry, which I don't want to do, as that'll make things even worse. Anything I eat just goes right through me, even when being very restrictive.

Any sorta help or words of encouragement would help. Thanks.